Tuesday, May 6, 2014

Unimpressed


Want to impress me? Don't constantly attempt to flatter me with generic compliments. If certain people continue to do this, I'm going to start replying to their messages with messages and tweets from random strangers in mass quantities. I'm not going to cry because I haven't been told I'm smart or pretty in the last 10 minutes, I promise.

Want to impress me? Do something. If you're a total slacker with nothing but problems and no goals in life, seemingly incapable of doing things independently or having intelligent thoughts, don't wonder why I roll my eyes at you or seem to ignore you.

Want to impress me? Do your own thing. That thing you do doesn't have to be encompassed in my main interests for me to admire it. Your personality doesn't have to be exactly like mine for me to appreciate you. Don't try to be me to make me like you. Don't try to be anyone else to make me like you either.

Want to impress me? Let me do my thing. It's cool when people see something and share it with me as something to possibly write about. It's cool when people contact me to collaborate. It's not cool to get 5 messages in a row, "You should do this. And this. And this. And this. And this."

Want to impress me? Don't lecture me. Share your own thoughts on a topic and I promise I will read/hear what you say thoughtfully. You might not agree with my response, but if you can't handle that then you can't handle me at my best or my worst, so why even bother? I don't mean for this to sound braggy, but there are some people I just want to tell, "Let me know when both MSNBC and Fox News call to ask your opinion." And for the love of the flying spaghetti monster, guys, DON'T MANSPLAIN.

Want to impress me? Speaking of guys, the quickest way to turn me off to you as friends or otherwise is to refer to other guys as "faggots" to try to make yourself appear like the man you are not. Equally repulsive is treating women like objects and playthings. Also, I'm not interested in superficial relationships created merely to change your Facebook status, give you a +1 in your inventory, boost your social capital, or make up for your lack of self-esteem. And, if I tell you no, I'm not playing hard to get or any other kind of game. Oh, and just because I'm a feminist doesn't mean I don't like dudes. Some people need to get over themselves.

Want to impress me? Conduct yourself with some dignity. Trying to convince me someone else is a terrible person and you are the answer to all humanity's needs just makes you look like an ass. I can see things for myself. Trust me, I can function.

Want to impress me? I work hard. All work and no play makes Maddie INSANE. In case you haven't noticed, Maddie is creative. When Maddie's brain is tired, Maddie can't create. Maddie doesn't want to talk about serious things all day every day 24/7. Maddie wants to laugh, mock things, play games, watch YouTubers, and be random. Also, I'm an introvert. I need to recharge. If you can be present in my space without expecting constant contact or interaction, all the better.

Want to impress me? Once again, I work hard. If you send me a message and I don't answer right away, don't take it personally. Don't ask me why I don't answer after 5 minutes or if I'm mad at you. Don't send me 95 more messages to try to get my attention. I'm probably working or doing the things that keep me from going insane.

Want to impress me? I'm nobody's prop. Don't assume due to my age that I'm naive. Again, I like working with people and collaborating. I like helping people. But if all you see me as is hits, ratings, and followers, feel free to kiss off. It's not hard to tell who is out there working for a cause and who is working for their own egos.

Want to impress me? Don't try to impress me.

3 comments:

  1. I hear you, I won't try to impress ;) But I'm glad to see that you're still interested in collaboration and helping people, because I'd like to write about you, if you'll say yes..
    I'm in education here at the University of Texas at Austin. My dissertation research shines a light on kids' public participation and digital literacies. My goal is that all kids are empowered to reach out in the world like you do, so they can act on what they care about in the world. A lot of kids don't even have access to the internet at home, so I'm think it's really important that their schools know how to encourage their networking and public participation. I care about more fairness and opportunity for kids. I think you do too, so I'm taking the chance that you might talk to me...

    Would you be open to a brief chat? Hope you'll say yes... You can message me through Google+ ... Best of luck in all you're doing, keep on! Audra

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  2. sorry, don't think my contact info came through... you can find me here... thanks! plus.google.com/109767070037294103973

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  3. Yes, ma'am! You've set the bar rather high with this one. Again!

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