I talk to both my mom and my dad about sex but these days, I get most of my information from websites like Scarleteen, Planned Parenthood, and others. It's not that I'm embarrassed to have frank discussions about sex with my parents. We have discussions about all kinds of things, sex being just one of them. It's just that I'm an introvert and would rather read than talk to anyone about anything.
I talk to my friends about sex sometimes. Most of my friends are older and some of them are sexually active. Truth is, there are a lot of reasons people have sex. Truth is, even though I have opinions about the reasons I would choose to have sex or choose not to, it's really none of my business what other women decide.
Chances are, despite contraception being available, I'll eventually have a friend who gets pregnant unintentionally. I know some teen moms and women who became moms when they were teens but I've never gone through the experience of a friend finding out she was pregnant. When that does happen, I'm not going to immediately advise her to go get an abortion.
The thing is, just like having sex, there's not much I could really do to influence another woman as to what to do if pregnant even if I wanted to. So if I did have a friend in that situation, I think it would be important to let her know that I'll be there with her whether that means going to a doctor for an abortion or for prenatal care for the duration of her pregnancy if she needed me.
Despite the fact I'm pro-choice, I'd really like to see abortion rates as low as they could be. The ways to accomplish this are by making contraception as accessible as possible and providing things like enforced paid maternity leave from work, food assistance, housing assistance, child care assistance, and other things families need to survive. Ways to not accomplish this are giving women incorrect information, making it hard to get birth control, and shaming women for making "poor life choices."
It's really disgusting that people who don't think they would have an abortion themselves want to call me a baby killer because I believe in a woman's right to choose. I've seen all the fetus pictures. I know people who have had premature infants fighting for their lives in NICU and I have known parents who have experienced the sorrow of losing a child. If my mom had chosen to have an abortion when she was pregnant with me, I wouldn't be here and therefore I wouldn't care. A woman's right to choose isn't about any of that. All that's about is propaganda, not reason.
If you have needed or chosen to have an abortion, I support you. That has to be the hardest decision ever and sometimes it's not a decision, it's a medical necessity. If you haven't or wouldn't choose to have an abortion, I support you too. Raising a child, even if you are financially secure, is a really hard thing. Giving up a child for adoption must be terribly hard. My idea of supporting women is supporting women, no matter what choices they make.